- I hate country music; and,
- the action is very egocentric.
- Why would you sing that on your wedding day?
- Why didn't someone tell her that was a poor choice?
- Why would a man want to marry a woman who thinks marriage is about her?
Whenever I meet with a couple to help them prepare for marriage, I begin with a shocker. I look at the future bride and say to her: "Your wedding day is not about you." With each bride the response is the same: her eyes grow large, her jaw drops, and she casts a quick glance at her future husband because I've just shattered every Disney-inspired dream she's had since she was four.
Next I look at the groom and say to him, "Your wedding is not about you, either." The grooms are never too surprised at this.
I then look at the couple and tell them, "Your wedding is not even about the both of you." At this moment the future bride is usually very confused.
Now I come to the final comment: "Your wedding is not about you. Your wedding is about Christ and his love for his Bride, the Church. Your love for each other is to mirror his love. Too many marriages fail because the wife or the husband forgets this and begins to think the wedding is about himself or herself."
Likewise, the day I was ordained was not about me; it was about Jesus Christ and his gift of his Body and Blood and of his tender mercy which always awaits us in the confessional.
I've never had a couple run out or look for a different priest. It's time to start thinking about marriage properly.