Courtesy and decency

Here is a question for you:

If a group or individual expects me to be somewhere at an event about which I know nothing more than the time and place of said event, is it unfair of me to want an invitation to said event?

The answer I keep receiving around here is, "Yes. It is unfair for you to expect an invitation when you know you're expected to be there."

The problem is this: I don't know I'm expected to be there unless somebody tells me! Otherwise all I'm doing is assuming.

Perhaps I'm simply being too polite, too respectful, too courteous.

It's very simple. If you want me to be somewhere all you have to do is ask me. Don't assume that somebody you tell will tell me that you want me there (or that somebody is in the hosptial or that some is doing better or that somebody is coming to town or that somebody somewhere has died) because said person will not and does not tell me these things, even if someone indeed is supposed to tell me.

I'm going to go insane soon over this issue. All is ask for is a little repsect and common courtesy and nobody else seems to care one bit!

Thank you for listening to my rant. Have a good day.